Angry Word Salad About Being a Woman Here

This cringe, incel, “Woe is me, I can’t find a girlfriend because I’m so ugly/they are so shallow” shit has to stop. It’s not just that y’all need to stop pathetically posting fifty times a day about it, but you need to hold the people in your circle accountable too.

In the past three years here, I have only seen this attitude getting worse. It’s an interesting type of sexism- because it’s no longer primarily ‘women have small brains and should stay in the kitchen’. It’s become this grating, incessant, sexualization of the women in STEM on campus. I am hearing more and more gross comments online AND on campus like “where are the ABGs in my lecture” and “fuck it I’m gonna just graduate and pay a bitch”. You have given all of these men with profound and crippling self confidence issues something to blame (not being able to find a girlfriend, being forever alone, not getting laid) for all of their problems.

They are taking all of this angry energy and directing it at “women”. I use quotations because some of you guys seem so totally distanced from actual real life female students that you have just found some shadowy, faceless ideal of the ‘women’ you think are making your life miserable. I’m starting to find that really scary. It’s dehumanizing, and particularly worrying when you look at what happened at Hagey Hall.

This attitude and more importantly this lack of action against people who act this way has to stop. The female students here don’t exist to make you feel better about your insecurities, and don’t tell me for one moment that this phenomenon isn’t sexist bullshit because you never see women making posts on here talking about their male classmates like this. And you also never see men blaming other men for not being open to stronger friendships and offering mutual support. It’s always OUR fault somehow. And it’s not every man here, in fact I would say the majority are good people, but the minority is loud and getting louder.