Surgery in 2 weeks and I'm having second thoughts

My TT is scheduled in 2 weeks. I have all these concerns popping into my head as the date approaches. I dont know if it's just nerves and thats making me hyper focus on all the negatives, or I have valid concerns. I am questioning whether this will all be worth it. Its alot of money that given the current financial climate, can be spent otherwheres as prices continue to skyrocket for basic necessities. Is it irresponsible to do this with the US the way it is right now? I am questioning if I chose the right surgeon. My time with her has been limited. She has a ton of awards and Ive researched her work, but I get nervous that theres only glowing reviews on RealSelf and her website. Surely someone cant be 5 stars with every patient encounter. I saw her for lip fillers a while ago and did have a good experience, but thats way different than a surgery. My perception may be biased, as I cant help but compare her demeanor and her office to the surgeon that did my BA. He was amazing and the office gorgeous, staff really helpful and I didnt feel rushed. Unfortunately he retired last year or else I would of been going to him. (He also was $3000 cheaper despite the beautiful office). Is my current surgeon just quick with me and not as open because I am in healthcare and I dont need alot of the usual questions answered? Last real concern- recovery. I have been reading past posts, researching outcomes and experiences. I know its not going to be easy and not the same as my BA recovery. I can handle drains and incisions etc. I am very aware of complications. The worry is having not the greatest support at home. I am the default parent to an active 6 year old and have large dogs. I do all the household work. I know I will be pushing myself to do more quicker because I have to. My husband has no clue on cooking, cleaning, laundry, our kids care. Ive had a talk with him about my limitations, it is not new info to him ( hes also in healthcare), but I feel like it goes in one ear out the other. My inlaws will be staying with us for abit to "help" but that actually turns into more work for me in the end due to groceries, cleaning, navigating our dogs with them as they arent good with dogs at all. I truly think my husband thinks Ill be out of sorts for 3, 4 days and then get back at it all. This on top of my job too. But that at least is a desk job I took a week off from with option to work from home the second week post op. I am scared. This isnt a post on the inequality of my marriage, I know this. I need to figure out how to navigate my situation as it is because its not like Im divorcing in 2 weeks time here. With my BA I ended up lifting overhead baggage onto a plane less than a week out post op because my husband can be so unhelpful. It was frustrating. I think maybe he thinks this surgery recovery will be quick because all Ive ever done is push myself even when sick or injured. I do what I need to do despite. Hes never seen me really laid up and needing help. So knowing all of this, should I really go through with the surgery?