Ghosted and blocked by the most generous kind man…
Ghosted and blocked by the kindest most generous SD- everything was fine- what happened? A couple of weeks ago a guy reached out to me- he said he was attracted to the fact I was in scrubs and had a soft spot for nurses- we set up a coffee date and then near the time of the meeting he stopped responding. I was very confused. He missed it and I explained that it was disrespectful so to make it up to me- he said he was very busy with work and missed it and sent a VERY generous amount to make up for it. We arranged to meet for a drink the next day and really hit it off. He said I was stunningly beautiful in person- so impressed with how smart I was and seemed really committed to helping me as I was coming out of a nasty divorce, needed to find a place to live etc. We met for a real “date” shortly after- it went really well-said how I looked even better than he imagined (my body)- it all went so well. Now I know he works on Wall Street and has two kids- he is certainly a busy man and has in this short time not been super responsive- but I started to sense things were off. Like a couple nights we would send flirty texts. Then it just stopped. In terms of finding an apartment which is a huge deal in NYC he even offered to pay for a year up front (sadly no one here would accept that) but he was kind enough to help me with first months rent and security deposit. Coordinating to meetup for that was a bit hectic and then after (last Wednesday- it is now Monday) I said thanks so much and was asking if he needed some space since he wasn’t so responsive. This was all on my work phone. He said yes everything was ok just very busy. Cool no problem. He said over and over how he saw this being a long term thing- his last girl was 4 years- helped her with school etc. He was adamant we could knock out my massive student loan debt together too. He was so chill about money and generous and I was finally starting to feel worth it! Like yes I know a lot of men are really weird about money- it’s like prove your worth etc- and I know it seems nuts but I believed he was genuine. Sometimes people see you have a lot to offer the world- they have the means to help and they can. Anyway- this was all on my work phone then I left town to be with family THursday. I asked if he needed a break from me or if I should reach out with another number so we could plan further. I didn’t turn my phone back on until this morning as I was certainly feeling so sad and confused over this. Not only did he not respond but he blocked me! I am so hurt and I texted from my personal number to just say please give me the respect to tell me what is going on I just wanted to plan with you. I know he was a little concerned with my schedule but I said I would even meet him halfway and see about part time/ per diem to better meet his needs. I felt like FINALLY I found someone amazing! It took years in NYC but I found him! I am honestly shocked. The old me would have went straight to “I’m not attractive enough- he found someone else-” but I know that can’t be true because he was clearly very into me. What do I do? This is heartbreaking. And like I’ve just been kicked down so much recently it’s a lot to handle- obviously being an SB comes with risks and rejection but what the actual f&%k. Please advise 😢