What’s the Point of Success If You’re Afraid of Women?

There’s a lot of talk these days about what it takes to be a “high value man.” You hear things like: Be on your own purpose. Go to the gym. Take ice baths. Make millions of dollars. All that stuff sounds great, right? But here’s the thing: despite all these so-called markers of success, most guys are still afraid to do one simple thing - talk to a girl.

Think about it. Ask the average guy, even one who’s successful in other areas of life, to walk up to a woman he doesn’t know and flirt with her. Whether it’s at the gym, on the street, or in a shopping mall, what do you think happens? Most of the time, you’ll hear excuses like, “Oh, I’m too tired,” or, “That’s weird.” But the real reason is that they’re just scared.

So, let me ask you: is that really what a man looks like? A guy who’s built this amazing physique, who’s made millions, who’s crushing it in the gym and doing ice baths… but is still too scared to approach a woman? Is that a successful man?

In my opinion, no. That’s not a man. That’s a boy - a scared little boy, running away from the one thing that truly terrifies him.

Do you want to be that boy? The guy who looks in the mirror, flexes his abs, shows off his fancy apartment, and says, “Look at me, I’ve achieved so much!” But deep down, you know you’re afraid. Afraid of women. Afraid of rejection. Afraid of facing your fear.

One of my students said it best: “What’s the point of driving a Ferrari and looking like Brad Pitt if you turn into a scared little boy every time you see a beautiful woman you want to talk to?”

Does it even matter how much you’ve achieved if you can’t face your biggest fear? I don’t think so.

And yet, that’s exactly how most men live their lives. They focus on everything else - money, fitness, productivity - but they avoid the one area that challenges them the most. They live in denial, pretending that fear doesn’t exist. But you can’t escape it. That fear will always come with you until you get rid of it.