My mother’s “dance partner(?)” is coming to my gender reveal

My father was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder and due to some ✨fun✨ events, I’ve gone no contact. The more time goes on though, the more I realize my mom has narcissistic tendencies.

Most recently, she has started seeing this guy (don’t get me started on her description of his red/green flags). No one knows if they’re officially dating. All she has said to me is they’ve been dancing together since December.

She dropped something off at my house today and told me that we’ll meet him next week at my gender reveal (we’re just cutting a cake and giving our loved ones a slice. We already know the gender but if anyone finds out before my mom does, it’ll be a huuuuuuuge thing). It was a statement. It wasn’t her asking if he could come. She decided he was coming.

In the same breath, she told me she has decided to wear an evening gown to my sister’s pageant as her escort. It’s a dress my sister already vetoed. But she “needs to look good”.

There is so much more I could go into, but that would be a dissertation. I just can’t believe she wouldn’t at least ask if he could come to my gender reveal for our very first baby. I don’t know this man! I don’t want to know him! She has a new boyfriend every other month and I’m so tired of this.