What’s up with “attractive men are bad and not interested in monogamy, unattractive men are good and loyal?”

There’s a recurring theme here on threads where men argue that women should choose better. And while I don’t necessarily disagree—because I think every woman has the responsibility to vet for the kind of man she wants—once I start asking questions about how women can choose better, the answers tend to go something like this:

“The guy was 6’2” meanwhile there was a 5’7” guy who was interested in her too.”

“Well she went for a Chad when she could have gone for the average guy.”

I think these are completely ridiculous non-answers. The idea that you can vet for early signs of abuse or toxicity based on how someone looks is ludicrous.

Why do the men not say, “Here is a list of toxic behaviors that correlate to abuse, so if you experience this I think you should leave.” Their advice for choosing better is to date non-attractive men.

Those of you who give answers like this, why do you do it? What is causing this complete fiction? Have you never seen attractive men be kind, respectful, and loyal? I don’t understand this at all.