We’re not even married yet.

I’ve been with my fiancé for a little under 3 years at this point. His mom really tries her best, and it is SO hard for me to accept that. She’s said things that I don’t think she realizes are rude af, and wants to know really personal information and inappropriate information sometimes.

My fiancé is gone for his job half the month, so he misses family events sometimes. I find it uncomfortable to visit with his family without him nowadays, and I find it weird that they would expect that I would want to come visit without my fiancé present either.

Last week, I wasn’t feeling well and told my fiancé I would not be going to his uncle’s birthday party. Turns out, I had COVID. In any case, his family is threatening to not invite me to any more events anymore because I didn’t come over when I had COVID.

My brother used to work in the ER as a nurse, working every other holiday. I never expect his wife to come to things without him, I could see that as being so uncomfortable and lonely for her. This is the value system I am used to also.

I want to know a)what’s more normal, going to in-laws without fiancée or visiting with them? And b) is this petty af or what?