My husband wants constant attention. Is this emotional abuse?

My husband and I (35 and 33) have been married for 13 years, we have 3 kids. I’m a sahm and I homeschool them. He has had affair(s) over the years, I’ve found out, and he’s stopped. Over the last few months he has told me I haven’t given him enough attention. The reason I wonder if this is emotional abuse and he’s setting me up for another affair is because we have sex every night, as long as I’m the one to initiate it. I try my best to be flirty with him but it’s never enough. He wants me to text him all day all of the dirty thing I want to do to HIM when he gets home. It’s always about him and me not giving him attention. Meanwhile, when he is home, he’s either on his computer playing video games or on his phone laying in our bed. Giving none of his attention to me or the kids.. am I being manipulated because I feel like I am.