Marriage- tolerance or compromise?

Recently I was having a conversation with a lady and she said marriage was about tolerance and I disagreed… I said it isn’t about tolerance, it is about compromise.

I asked my husband and he agreed it is about compromise but then I asked a male coworker and he said no, it’s about tolerance…

Side note: my husband and I have been married for 11 yrs. The lady I was talking to has been divorced twice. My coworker is in his mid 30s and is single.

I was surprised to have 2 people say marriage is about tolerance, so it got me wondering, how many more people think marriage is about tolerance?