Went to see lesbian comedian Ashley Gavin

So..My friends (5 women F/32*) went to see Ashley Gavin at the Irvine Improv in Southern California. Now I’m from California but from a rougher area than Orange County and especially, Irvine. I listen to Ashley’s podcast “let’s talk about gay sex every morning before work and although some of my friend only knew her from tik tok, we were all excited to see her. It was my first comedy show and on the ride over I expressed to my friend how I never felt safe going to a comedy show, not because of the content but because of the aggression some male comedians can have toward women. Well, I won’t get in to detail but let me say- this show was not it. Ashley had a male straight opener, which all of his jokes I laughed at- genuinely might I add. Ass soon as she got on stage she became to berate the audience on how we responded to his jokes. This would set the tone for the rest of the show. She continue to say we were the worst audience in her entire history. How she thought we were too “sensitive” and gen Z to laugh. Well I am older than Ashley, as is all my friends who went to the show. She went in and on for 20 plus minutes on how she missed the straights and her straight audience. When the crowd would start to engage she would snap at them for wooing, yelling out phrases like “yes!” Etc. She even started heckling a woman for covering her mouth whilst laughing. It was like we couldn’t win and soon it got actually awkward. It was like you had to fake that you were in hysterics or leave. That was the vibe. Still had a great time and will continue to support the podcast but the experience definitely put me off going to live shows. Is this how all comped shows are?