Sock day after 2.5 years!

Back up to August for mediation. She wanted me to have minimum parenting time. She wanted the $325k home. And for me to keep my business I’d have to give her $160k. Well we never came to any agreement. I had a divorce lawyer she had a business lawyer.

Trial was in October. 3.5 days of her being greedy. She said my company was valued 400k. We valued it at 68k. The judge went on vacation so we didn’t get the decree till Nov 2.

The decree stated, I got 50/50 custody. My company was valued at 68k like I knew it would be. And she wanted the home. She owes me $52k due to the equity in the home.

The last two years I haven’t had the kids other then minimum parenting time. She kicked me out of the house. (I had a bad lawyer at the beginning) I didn’t pay child support or the spousal maintenance. But I did pay the mortgage and all the bills and cell phones. I was renting a house so it was very hard to live these last two years financially. Mentally draining as well.

I’m free! I cried for 10 minutes. I don’t miss her anymore. I cried because all the stress all the unknowns. And joy that greed and bitterness didn’t prevail! I have my children right now. I can live my life. I can start building my life. I can buy things for my business now. I can raise my children and be more involved. Before I couldn’t take them to school or do homework. Pack lunches. I miss the normal things of being a parent and now I get to do that.

I told her back in 2021 interest rates are 4%. You keep the house. I keep the business. And you can have the kids 70/30 or 60/40. She said no. I’m going to ruin your life. Take away everything you love. Kids, home, business. (Phone conversation so I couldn’t use this in court against her)

Now interest rates are 8%. I got 50/50 and she owes me 52k. The ironic part is I had the best intentions for her. Yes her husband and not the people filling her head with dollar signs.

Pigs get fat, hogs get slaughtered!

Thanks for listening to me vent/rant.

I hope everyone can take away something from this post. Weather it’s the importance of having a good lawyer. Or not being greedy/bitter. And don’t hold your family in limbo for 2.5 years because your selfish desires. Put the kids first.

Best of luck everyone with your divorce.

(Sent from phone) sorry for typos.