how do i(17f) handle resentment towards my mom?

i'm realizing that i don't want to like my mom. i find a sort of comfort in being angry with her. i feel bad for all the trauma she's been through, and i also am upset with how she treated me sometimes.

she's not abusive, but we don't have a fluffy mother-daughter relationship either. she's always been short tempered and serious. she's never understood me, dismisses my feelings, jumps to conclusions, and knew about my mental problems yet did nothing to fix them. she apologized for the latter, yet it still hurts because shes a nurse. she knew better :(

i'm not entirely a victim here. she has to deal with my forgetfulness and my flakiness. i've snapped at her before. i don't do chores sometimes, despite knowing a dirty home stresses her out. i definitely have to pick up the pace myself.

i want to be a better daughter, yet i still don't want to like her. its like this boulder in my chest. i want to do good things for her, but i don't want to be lovey-dovey with her. i dunno how else to explain this. i also want to move out asap.

i feel bad. she won't be alive forever, and she does a LOT for me. she's hard working and needs a vacation. i don't know what to do.