what do I do abt enmeshed parents following me where I move

I'm f 19 years old and to keep a very long story short me and my parents, especially me and my mom, are insanely enmeshed. Here's this for reference:https://www.reddit.com/r/entitledparents/s/7nP7keLJ1w

They refuse to do anything by themselves. Going out to eat, trips, shopping, anything you can name, me and my brother (15) have to go to. "You're an adult, don't go" it literally causes marital strife if I don't, and im always guilty for it. My dad is super special and if I won't go to something both him and my mom want to do, he throws a literal fit and refuses to go at all even if my mom wants to. And the blame is put on me for "being ungrateful of the stuff we are offering, we never got to do this when we were kids." They don't go together because they know we as their kids keep them from fighting... less.. they still fight and are annoying, just better when we are there to hold the fort down I guess. It's annoying as hell.

I was homeschooled k-12 and did all of college online. I am glad I was homeschooled, I would have hated public school, and i was in co ops all the time so i was w a bunch of other kids up until covid. but since 2020 I've spent so much time with them it's sickening. Ihate being around them. Im done. The relationship I have with my dad is very surface level, my mom tells me he thinks I am a liar, doesn't trust anything I say or what I think. Whenever I am alone with him it's awkward. I have nothing to say to him. My mom on the other hand thinks she needs to know everything about me, includinf extremely personal matters like my sex life, and when I don't tell her every waking detail of my life it goes to my dad who then just feeds to her more that I am lying about something. I love them but i do not like them at all and everything i do for them is out of guilt and not at all cause i want to do it.

I don't leave the house cause they always ask where I am going or they go with me, I don't call anyone or have any friends cause they listen through my door/walls. I have life 360 and the last time I went to do something by myself (jan) I wasn't answering the phone timely enough because my ringer accidentally turned off, my dad told my mom to drive to where i was to find me. I dont have any life at all and the very small life online I do have is completely secret from them. They tell me they want me to get friends but it's not genuine I can't explain it.

I want to move out. I'm saving up to. The problem is they want to go wherever I go. My dads already mentioned that he never wants me to move out. Ever. I want to move to a place that's at least 2 hours away, and whenever I mention places all of a sudden they are looking at houses in the area too. I dont want them anywhere near me. I dont want to run into them at the store. I dont want my mom randomly showing up to my house to "surprise me." I want to be left alone and have my own life for once in my life.

"Just don't tell them where you are moving to!" They work at the same job as me and I make WAY too much money at my age to quit, plus it's remote. I'd be an idiot to drop it. But this job forces me and my mom to go on work trips together every 3 months, there's no way either of them will not know where I live.

I'm literally on a camping trip right now that I did not want to go to, I begged them to just let me stay home and my mom straight up told me dad is too controlling to let me stay home and that she tried to talk to him about letting me stay but that it wasnt happening. I don't want to be here lmao.