Dating engineers as an engineer... where’s the spark?

So, I (27F, engineer) have been on a few dates with fellow M engineers, and I’ve started to notice a pattern. On my last date, we were sipping drinks, the lighting was low, the mood was right... therefore, I leaned in, trying to create a little tension.

But instead of matching the energy, he launched into an in-depth explanation of why the bar’s pendant lights were inefficient and how he’d design them better. Therefore, I tried to steer the conversation toward something playful, maybe a little banter, a flirtatious joke.

But he countered with a literal TED Talk on the physics of humor and why certain jokes statistically perform better than others.

So now I’m wondering… is this just an engineer thing? Do we overanalyze the magic out of romance? Have any of you (especially the guys here) ever felt this too? Or am I just picking the ones who turn every date into a thesis defense? Bonus points if you explain it without a diagram