How to prepare to GTFO- roast my plan

Alright friends, my husband is dual US-Dutch citizen and as a result, my child is also eligible for Dutch citizenship. We are working on getting the paperwork for child’s Dutch passport. In the meantime, I’m the shlub with only a US passport. I think I could get in on a partner visa or DAFT because of my entrepreneurship experience. A few questions for the hive mind here about partner visas:

1) Currently, we are not planning to move but might if things get bad enough. We have a decent amount of savings + investment income. How problematic would it be for the 3 of us to move there without either parent having a job initially? From what I’ve been reading online, it’s fine for partner+toddler but only problematic for my partner visa but please correct.

2) Unfortunately, we are not at the point that our investment income is >2300 Euros/month seemingly needed for a partner visa. Is there a bulk savings amount that would cause the government to overlook this monthly requirement? Sorry, I couldn’t find this info on the Dutch government website.

3) What, besides getting all of our documents together, should we be doing in case we need to GTFO of the US and to the Netherlands quickly? Probably learn Dutch?

4) Plan would be to first go to the Netherlands (likely staying with/near my partner’s relatives) and then regroup. Is this a naive plan?

Feel free to roast me if I’m missing something obvious.