Friend texts me every single day, paragraphs, and I’m kind of going insane.

Hey yall, I have a friend (former coworker) where we became very close and basically every single day since we became friends 1.5 years ago we text paragraphs and paragraphs to each other— I remember, we’d be chatting each other ALL day at work ( at least 2-3 hours back and forth) and then she’d send me like 10 reels and then she’d send me like 30 texts at once too.

While I enjoy talking to her, I don’t want to talk to her everyday and these messages are becoming a chore to be honest. At this point she prob sends me a few reels a week (GOOD) and we text back and forth like 2x a day, but that’s bc I’ve trained her, otherwise, if it were her choice she’d be texting me every single minute of everyday. Whenever she messages me too, I’m not even lying, I get like 40 notifications and like 8 of those are HUUUUUGE paragraphs.

I like her a lot, but im overwhelmed. I feel like a jerk, she’s already reduced like 70% bc I am slow to respond, and I feel like she prob thinks I hate her and am abandoning her, but she always says “please respond whenever forgive me” and she means it, and then I go in like “OMG GIRL NO YOURE GOOD BLOW ME UP!”

At least I used to, and I wanna smack myself for that. I used to respond like within 1 hour or less and now it’s slowly become me responding like every 20 hours and I feel like such a jerk but it’s just a LOT

I guess I’m asking for advice on how the worlds biggest people pleaser should navigate this— some may come in and tell me to set a stern and cold boundary, but it’s hard when you’re as large of a people pleaser as I am :/ thank you very much!