Why do I get angry when someone disagrees with me?

I have social anxiety so when I manage to express myself and speak up on my opinions I become hyper aware of the response. I have a hard time allowing other people influence something I’d rather do my way, as I’m a perfectionist.

Today we were in groups in class and we had to discuss how to teamwork. I said it’s important to allow for questions and rather ask many questions than to leave any confusion. Someone replied with “yes, but people should be able to keep track and stay on top of things and not rely on others to do it for them”. Idk why but this angered me, as someone with ADHD I try my best to keep up but I struggle with paying attention and catching ques and small details sometimes. So the only way I can function is to try and have some structure. My way of staying on top of things is asking questions and making sure we’re on the same page.

I’m not sure why it awakens so much emotion in me to feel misunderstood and disagreed with. Like I almost have to argue to have my perspective considered.